I feel it…
The pull to do it all.
Yet the reality that no one really can.
The pull to meet all of my kids’ expectations.
Yet constantly I fail.
The pull to say “yes” to the same things that other parents say “yes” to.
Yet how can we all make the same yes’s when our lives and families are so beautifully different?
In a world where we desire to have and to do all of the best things that we see we just simply can’t.
We have to choose.
And the reality is that no one else is going to prioritize our family’s hopes and dreams, except us.
Gathering around the table together is something that is important to us.
Many times it is loud and crazy. Six years into parenting five kids and we are still pausing when asked for more food, waiting for “please” to be added before we answer their request.
It seems as though they would have gotten it by now yet still we continue teaching them.
For us, the table is a place to invite others around.
A place to listen to stories.
A place to hear what happened at school.
A place to hear a friend share about their recent travels or what life was like for them growing up.
A place to fill our tummies and our hearts.
And yet still I feel the pull. The pull to continue gathering around the table.
Life changes like seasons. Snow is now outside my door covering up the leaves.
Karate started last year. I can still never seem to keep the schedule straight. Thank goodness for Google calendar. Each morning I glance at the calendar to see what today holds. In past seasons we had a consistent dinner time every night to feed little ones before hunger striked and to get them into bed before they melted.
Now, now we can flex a whole lot easier.
Dinner still happens but it doesn’t look the same each night…
5pm on Mondays,
7pm on Thursdays
…yet it is still the thing that brings us together.
To which I wanted a visual reminder of what is important to us, even in the changing seasons.
Have you ever noticed how a candle can be so mesmerizing?
Watching that flame flicker.
Bringing a group of people together to say, here we are.
I’m currently reading, “The Tech-Wise Family” and loved the idea of having a candle lit at dinner.
When the Hearth and Hand collection came out at Target, I was excited to buy that very thing!
There were multiple options to choose from. The one I wanted had two sizes to choose from.
Multiple small and large holders would make a glorious display. I could picture garland running through them all at Christmas.
But, I knew that I didn’t need them all.
I just needed one.
One to bring us together.
In the hustle and bustle of getting food made, dishes on the table, water glasses filled…the very last step is now to light the candle.
And then we pray.
We thank God for this food, for this time and for each other. And in a world filled with chaos and confusion we are reminded of the gift that each person sitting around that table is to us.
Of course, you can imagine that the very next thing was going to be the fight about WHO gets to light the candle!
Thankfully I already had an idea for that: Kid Of The Week! Glorious, simply glorious.