However, for some women Mother’s Day is not a celebration.
I have been in church services where all of the moms have been asked to stand. What do you do when you know you’re a mom, but there are no kids there with you? I have been the one sitting there trying desperately to put a bewildered look on my face and pretend to smile while doing my very best to think of anything else…ANYTHING. Who wants to start crying in what is supposed to be a happy moment??? That would be awkward.
It also holds a memory box that I created for our first anniversary when we were joyfully anticipating our first child in 7 months, who we affectionately called, Jr.
The glider that I rocked my babies in and that same reminder of HOPE are present in this room as well.
Our experiences change us though.
I would be lying if I didn’t say that I will also be sitting in this room reflecting and mourning for friends this year who are crying in great desperation today.
A friend who a few weeks ago lost her baby boy when she was 6 months pregnant with him. She is the mom who I will be thinking about all day long. Please don’t ask the moms to stand.
Going through pain showed me even clearer that Satan is real. I wish that we lived in a perfect world where there was no pain or death, but then again, that is how God originally intended it to be and there will be a day when it will be that way again.
When I think of standing on Mother’s Day I think of the pain of those who have lost their children, are struggling to get pregnant, or have other painful memories. Those whose hearts are yearning to be mothers yet who cannot stand.
Those who can hardly bear the pain of the memories, longings, or regrets.
When I think of that I remember that I have been there and even in the midst of the joy of celebrating this day I’m reminded of the pain that it means for so many others at the same time. On a day like today, celebrate; celebrate the lives that make you so overwhelmingly tired and so immensely THANKFUL. And pray; pray for friends who might not be celebrating today, because I know that prayer makes a difference.
Don’t stop there, encourage your friend(s) by letting them know that you are thinking of them…it might mean the world to them. Send them a note simply saying, “I’m thinking about you today.” But please, please don’t single them out or remind them of what’s missing by asking all of the moms to stand.