Have you ever heard someone say,
“Man, all of the stories (this literally might mean, two) that I have heard about adoptive families, the kids always grow up to be really bitter and resentful towards their adoptive parents.”
I’m not even going to begin to dive into this statement. There are so many factors that play into each situation. However, I did read this article a few weeks ago by Kristen Howerton and finally I felt like I had words to describe things that I was feeling.
Especially when I read this portion…
“You can save a child once. After that, it’s called parenting.
Adoptive parenting is not a noble pursuit, and I squirm a little any time I hear people perpetuating the narrative that adoptive parents are saviors. While it’s certainly true that adoption can save a child from a life of living in an orphanage, adopted children should not be required to bestow special gratitude to their parents. Adoptive parents are regular, imperfect people. Adoptees have the same rights as biological children to be resentful, annoyed, or ungrateful towards their parents, without being reminded that they’ve been “saved” by their parents.”