With no hesitation, one year into it, I can say that I like adoption. Even though this past year has been the HARDEST & MOST DIFFICULT year of my 30 year life. Let me explain…
I have been hit, kicked, scratched, bitten, and head butted.
I’ve been so calm and level when someone is screaming and hitting me and then other times I have snapped when a child comes and asks me a simple question.
Never before have I received so many snuggles, hugs and kisses.
Never before has my heart been so overwhelmed by simply being called,”mom”.
Never before have I been so thankful that it is going so well! No really, this was a description of the past year and when I think back I realize that it could have been way worse! I remember going into it not knowing exactly how things were going to work out and how things would go growing from a family of 4 to a family of 7. But then again my husband does always say that “God doesn’t call us to what’s comfortable or convenient.” Over this past year I have found that to be very true and I have also discovered that it is way better to live a life of “challenge” than to just accept “comfortable.”
The truth is adoption is hard, parenting kids who are adopted is hard, parenting biological kids who were born into your family is hard. But when you have purpose, when you have hope for the future, when your life is now a mission to love your family no matter how far from perfect it all is. It doesn’t matter how hard it gets because it is SO GOOD, and is so right to love as we have been loved!
So whatever you might be considering that looks too hard in your life, that you might not have the answers for, that you can’t see how exactly it is unfolding…but somewhere in there you feel the deep call that maybe this is bigger than you and maybe this is God’s perfect plan for you then I would encourage you to GO FOR IT!
Here’s a quote from the movie The Blind Side that captures how I feel about adoption one year into it: