Then our life took a dramatic turn. An AMAZING dramatic turn.
Three precious kids came into our lives and became ours, well sort of. It was still considered a foster situation and I couldn’t say one word about them on my public blog. How do you blog about your life and not mention three of the six most important people in your life? We were considered their parents, but legally we were just the “foster-to-adopt” parents. Major decisions were made through a social worker. I had to fill out forms to request to take “my” children out of state for a family vacation. I understand the need for paperwork…I mean, I hate it (in different circumstances, I love it)…but I understand it. Our reality however, was that we were a family from the first moment they came into our home. That first moment was on January 21st, 2012. We might have only been the “foster-to-adopt” parents, but our hearts had no clue that was the case.
My last post, on our previous blog before I went MIA, was about the anniversary of the first child that we lost. On January 11th, 2012 it would have been Jr’s 6th birthday. A memory of a painful miscarriage, the first of three before we had our now youngest son & daughter, and something that I use to commemorate about was now a part of how our story of grace unfolded. I couldn’t tell the world how wonderful life was now, how we had a family that God had put together even though there was great pain along the way (for everyone involved). We were told that the adoption finalization would take about 3-6 months. It was a relatively simple process yet still took 10 months to complete. During that time I learned a lot, I loved more than I learned, I have been completely overwhelmed, I’ve washed more laundry than I ever thought possible, and in the process I have had to redefine MY identity in Christ and determine what brings joy to my heart.
In the process of figuring out what brings me joy, I came to a very
decisive conclusion (not like in high school when you are trying to
figure out who you are and just kind of going with the flow of all of
the things that you think you want to be.) My conclusion was, that after ten months, I STILL love blogging. It
helps me process our crazy non-normal life and appreciate all the
million things that I love about it. I needed more definition to it
though…and in minutes I easily narrowed it down to four topics that I
could produce unending material
for…Parenting.Adoption.Organization.Decor. There are things that I love even more than parenting, adoption, organization & decor…like the wonderful husband that I married. But I am assuming our love won’t be in question when it is apparent in the other things that I talk about how madly in love I am with him. So this is my story. We are OFFICIALLY a family on paper, today is National Adoption Day, the same day that we just happened to finalize our adoption (I just took a moment to AGAIN internally shout it from the hilltops!) I can officially share my real life crazy thoughts with you, and along the way I am hoping that we (you and I) can enjoy the passions that bring us together and take steps to learn and grow along the way. Welcome to the journey!